When I was in Chicago I had the chance to give a little presentation to a mom's group that Melanie goes to. I have done the talk (it is about intimacy and marriage) several times now and was feeling pretty confident that I could handle talking to a group of big city moms.
I was just getting into the presentation when all of sudden one of the ladies in the group starts voicing her disagreement with what I am saying, challenging me on some of the main points of this talk (We were talking about meeting our husband's needs.). Thankfully, I was able to stay calm and, with the help of Melanie, address her concerns. However, I did realize that I was going to have to do some quick editing if I was going to keep her interested in what I was saying. She was coming at this topic with such a different perspective and background than I was. She had a whole different set of values and beliefs. Later, I was trying to analyze why that surprised me so much. I finally realized that most of the people who I hang around with think the same way I do, believe the same things I believe, and for the most part have the same experiences I have. Yes, it is comfortable to be insulated in my safe little pod, but, as uncomfortable as I was during this experience, it was invigorating too, to get a chance to defend my beliefs and share them with someone who does not feel the same.
So, I guess I've been pondering....What does being in the world but not of the world really mean? Do we insulate ourselves and stick with birds of a feather or do we branch out and expand our horizons to include those who are our opposites? (How many more cliches could I put in that sentence?)
All in all, I will always value and cherish this experience! (I'm not kidding Melanie-I really will!!) Plus, this group has the best party favors and snacks!!! (If you want to know more about that you'll have to e-mail :-)